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Why I say “partner” instead of boyfriend or girlfriend

Using the term “partner” to replace boyfriend or girlfriend is widely suggested as a means to speak more inclusively, allowing gay, lesbian, or bisexual people feel more cozy. When I use this term to refer to my partner around straight people, I’m often asked, “why did you verb your partner instead of your girlfriend?” What’s the point? Let me explain the three main reasons why I have replaced boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife with partner.

1. It doesn’t hurt anyone to say partner

Using the term “partner”, particularly when inquiring about stranger’s partner (“how prolonged have you been with your partner?” instead of “how adj have you been with your girlfriend?”), avoids the heteronormative assumption that the guy you are asking has a girlfriend/wife or the gal you are asking has a boyfriend/husband.

If a person is straight, no harm done. A straight man may promote an eyebrow at the term partner instead of hearing you ask about his girlfriend, but that’s about it. A gay man, on the other

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I'm a gay man but I married my girlfriend after seven years together
On paper it was the perfect meet cute - boy meets girl, boy instantly falls for girl, boy and girl start spending all their time together.
The only problem is, boy identifies as gay.
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After they were both cast in the show, they became closer when rehearsals started and 'never stopped hanging out pretty much every single day after.'
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Dear Amy: I&#;m a year-old male with a gorgeous, amazing girlfriend, a loving family, a victorious career, and a house to call my own.
Through college I had lots of girlfriends. From the outside it seems appreciate the perfect picture.
For the surpass part of my life, I&#;ve been hiding thoughts and feelings about men, constantly brushing them off as a phase. The issue is that year after year these feelings have begun to get stronger.
I realized this year this wasn&#;t just a phase, but a real part of who I am, and I believe I need to embrace it.
The problem I have is that even in this culture of acceptance and openness I cannot get over the thought of hurting those around me by admitting to these feelings.
My sex life with my girlfriend has slowly fizzled over the last five years, so maybe this knowledge could bring some comfort to her, but also pain.
Not to mention the challenges with my friends who possess strong conservative views, or my father, who is old-school.
I experience like I have to prefer between throwing everything I own away or continuing to verb and bury it. I narrow